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Monday, September 19, 2011

Writing: Thought Catalog

Monday, September 19, 2011 Posted by Chris Tung , , 6 comments


One of my best friends showed me a few articles on Thought Catalog that she felt mirrored our lives, and after slowly reading a few pieces every so often, I've quickly found myself reading at least one article every day on the subway. I believe this is the case because the articles, usually, have strong writing, and the writers are able to vocalize a lot of the internal dialogue I have with myself on a day-to-day basis. More importantly, certain authors (Ryan O'Connell, Stephanie Georgopulos, and Colette deVille to name a few) are able to shed new light on life, love, and the human experience. So what more can you ask for?

Here are a few of my favorite pieces to get you started:
1. Things To Remember When You're Single
2. I Just Broke Up With My Partner Of Five Years
3. A Letter To Your Crush
4. Reasons Why You Shouldn't Be Friends With Your Ex

6 comments:

The Storyteller said...

nice blog. keep it up

Chris Tung said...

@The Storyteller. Thank you for the kind words! It mean more than you know.

Stephanie said...

Thanks for reading, Chris!

Chris Tung said...

@Stephanie Thanks for writing amazing stuff!

Zorkion said...

Dude, #1 is just plain awful.

Sure, the writing is alright, but the content is ridiculous. It treats being single like a disease that's to be avoided by washing your hands every hour, eating an apple every day, and spinning in circles three times in the morning.

"Believe in yourself. Don’t feel like you’re not good enough to be loved. Self-pity is a good way to stay single. Self-respect is a good way to stay grounded. Remember that people who are in relationships were once single." this shit is so ridiculous. Its like saying that the only reason you should try to better yourself, or be a confident person is so that you can marry off, because thats the entire purpose of life.

Maybe the reason that so many people apparently "cry [themselves] to sleep because of the loneliness that can exist in a relationship" is because they take this article's advice, and jump into any relationship just to avoid getting their feet dirty in the muck of being single, and then because of that, find themselves in a situation that they made out to be some sort of personal nirvana. Its like making a negative sum decision, and losing more than they gain, just so that they can stay free of the single disease.

Now Im not saying theres anything wrong with relationships, mind you, and they can be great for what they are, but come on, were intelligent creatures. This intelligence allows us to see the systems of evolution and natural selection for what they really are. The real challenge is being able to fight for oneself, instead of just going with the preordained natural flow. Its all just genetic algorithms, people get into relationships because it increases the chance that theyll produce offspring. it sounds silly and coldly scientific, but its true. People do it, and then their kids do it, and then through this cycle develops a society that reenforces that same behavior from all sides.

Being single isnt some sort of injury, but rather an opportunity for personal development. But even that's wrong, because all of life is an opportunity for personal development, for figuring out exactly for yourself what it is that YOU want to pass on to the world. If people choose that they just want to be another brick in the wall, and put so much emphasis on being in relationships that they leap into it at the first opportunity, then so be it. But maybe one crying, cold lonely night of relationshiphood, theyll realize that something bigger passed them by like a floating giant while they shut their eyes tight to their own desires, and sang out loud along with the music of society emanating from their cultural ipods, just to drown out the sound of the wind in the trees.

Chris Tung said...

@Zork I totally understand where you're coming from, and it's a great dissection of the piece. But, for me, what I took away most was:

"Remember to have fun. Spend time with your family and friends. Read more. Create something you’re proud of. Make your own rules and then break them. Swap spit. Take trips alone. Love yourself."

Yes, it's cheesy and only a snippet of her argument, but it's an important thing for the primary audience of Thought Catalog. Often times, twenty-somethings are struggling with a new era in their lives and the claim that we shouldn't worry about relationships, but instead, venture out and come to terms with who we are and love that person is the most important part of the article.